The Trust Question, Part One: What Does the Evidence Actually Say?

Welcome to Phoenix Phreedom. I'm Kera, I'm a social scientist and a strategist, and my work is to name the pattern that looked like personality long after we have forgotten they began as protection. Last episode, we talked about the invisible contract, the roles you got handed before you were old enough to negotiate the terms. Provide, please, carry it, and call it normal. And I left you with the carry check, and one question underneath all of it. Can you trust anyone else to carry it?

Some of you answered before I finished asking. No. Okay, then that is exactly where we're going today. Because trust is not pretending everybody is safe. It is not ignoring what happened, and it's definitely not handing everybody access to you, because somebody told you healing means lowering your standards. Before we finish, you will know the difference between discernment and disappearing, between one miss and a pattern, and how to look at the evidence before you stay, leave, invest, delegate, reconnect, or hand somebody another ounce of access.

Episode 2 gave you the carry check. Today, we deal what happens after you decide you're not carrying everything yourself. And apparently, that means we need to go into the woods. A woman is standing alone in the woods. She has two choices, a strange man or a bear. And somehow, the internet lost its entire mind.